Where once we looked outwards for people we liked, hoping one is delivered on the wings of chance, now we bow our heads and flick through carefully managed bios and outdated group shots.
To be blunt, it’s going to come across as if you’re injecting Sex Potential in a place where it doesn’t belong, and that’s going to feel very weird to people who weren’t thinking about sex in relation to work conversations at all.
I was sat at a table piled with Aperol Spritz in a North London bar where the queue for a drink was a revolving door of attractive young people.
Both are wrong, obnoxious, and rooted in self-deception; and both sexes need to stop using them as excuses.
If you suspect that he thinks he can do better than you (but can't), you are not going to bring his head out of the clouds by hanging around waiting for him to change his mind. The best thing you can do is to forget about him, move on, and work improving yourself.
Men only commit to women they have strong feelings for, and even then they are making a sacrifice.
If you find yourself claiming that a guy you like "has commitment problems," be honest with yourself: the truth is that he doesn't like you enough to commit. Claiming that men have commitment problems is similar to men claiming that women are whores because they like a guy that is more successful or confident.
My husband has also admitted that it would make him uncomfortable too, and holds himself to the same standard I do.
My supervisor, who has to travel with me on occasion, is male and close to my age, so that makes it worse.
Unlike him, you’re not disenfranchising others — because men are not a traditionally marginalized group at work — but you’ll be disenfranchising yourself. You can do whatever works for you and your marriage.